If you’re new to buying sex toys, consider this a Sex Toy Purchasing 101 course. Lisa Finn, a sex educator and brand manager of Babeland, offered her expertise in the area to help find the perfect toy for you and your partner.
Like to any other big purchase, finding the perfect starter toy is all about quality. “Make sure that the toy is constructed with body-safe materials—like silicone, ABS plastic, steel, etc.— and that the motor is well-made and won’t give in on you two months in,” says Finn. “Reputable sex toy vendors will also provide a warranty with their products since most shops (for obvious hygienic reasons) don’t accept returns or exchanges.”
Finn also adds that if something looks intimidating to you, that is not the toy you want. “You want a toy that you’ll feel comfortable grabbing off your nightstand, and you’ll want to allow yourself to relax while using it,” explains Finn.
Lastly, if you’re nervous, try and talk with an expert. Chances are you’re near a reputable sex shop like Babeland, Pure Pleasure, or Good Vibes (all woman-founded!) and can go inside and get the answers you need. They’ll have displays of products out on the shelves for you to feel in your hands, and their staff is open to answering any questions you may have about the products and how they work in a non-judgemental, sex-positive environment. Both Babeland and Good Vibes offer a variety of free in-store workshops and classes as well. There are so many sizes, shapes, and styles of toy that knowing exactly what you want it to do is the best place to start. Ahead, the best sex toys for couples that also work for solo play.